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11

Don’t panic when they panic:

It is not unusual to receive a frantic text or late night phone call with

panic or fear in your student’s voice. Students tend to share their

fears and apprehensions with their parents and their joys with their

peers. They will be stressed about academic load, loneliness, dating,

and pressures of life. They are turning to you to let out their fears,

apprehensions, and sometimes tears so they can lighten their load and

tell someone about it. They will feel much better, and you will then

carry the stress of wondering how they are doing. As their stress level

is going up, show your love even more by sending them a hand written

letter of encouragement, or a care package, coming for a visit and

attending a sporting event, or posting a picture on Facebook of your

family pet that tells them how much they are missed and loved.

Get involved and stay informed:

Please stay informed through our academic calendar and events page.

We will send out occasional newsletters, and I will share other ways

to stay connected at our parents orientation meeting. Facebook is a

great way to stay connected, but I encourage you to talk in advance

with them about healthy boundaries in this area. Students will be far

more open to you knowing what is going on if you are not responding to

every post or trying to stalk them and every new friend they have.

Expect change:

As they grow and mature, it is normal for your son or daughter to

become his or her own person and test new thoughts and ideas. It

is important to talk about your expectations for them in the areas

of money, rules of your house when they come home, academics,

and much more. There are some great books and resources that I

recommend, including:

1. Letting Go: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding the College Years

by

Karen Levin Coburn and Madge Lawrence Treeger

2.

Don’t Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money:

The Essential Parenting Guide to College

by

Helen E. Johnson and Christine Schelhas-Miller

3.

You’re On Your Own (But I’m Here If You Need Me):

Mentoring Your Child During the College Years

by

Marjorie Savage